This I Know

30 06 2012

Let’s see, what have I learned this week.

Prior to this week, there was no rule for how to break a tie in track a field.
Trying to give up white sugar and white flour is really really really hard.
Facebook can just change your email address on your profile without your permission, or knowledge.


King of the Wild Frontier

29 06 2012

Today marks the 9th year since my dad died.  It’s always a weird day for me, the first few years were really hard, I couldn’t get past the overwhelming sadness of the day.  Gradually it’s become less sharply painful and more like a dull ache.  Today will most likely be fairly unremarkable.  I’ll go to the gym, go to work, go to a cardinals game, come home and fall asleep.  Remarkably similar to what I would have done 9 years ago if things had gone differently. I’ve struggled for the last few years to figure out how I should feel and observe these miles stones: his birthday, my parent’s anniversary, and the anniversary of his death.  Spending the day sad, or grieving is not how my dad would have wanted me experience life.  Those first years I was still raw and grieving and not acknowledging those milestones made me feel like I was losing him all over again.  One night, when I was living in AK after college and my mom and I had been spending lots of time going through his things, I was talking to one of my friends about how hard it was to let go of this stuff, even though I knew we’d never need or want it and other people would.  He said to me, letting go of things can be hard because we feel like we are letting our memories go with them, but no one will ever take those away from you; you’ll never forget your dad.  It seems obvious, but I can’t explain the profound effect those words have had on me over the years.

So today I will remember, but I will also live my life and celebrate all the ordinariness of it, because too often we forget that a plain old non eventful day is a blessing.  I will live, love, laugh, watch some baseball, and think about going fishing over the weekend.  I think he’d approve.

Be Happy

27 06 2012

These pictures will make you happy. Yay.

What’s Been Going On

25 06 2012

Celebrated with the Rockstar on Monday morning for completing her dissertation!  Woooooo!  That night I had a killer migraine, plus I was really hot so I went to sleep on the floor in front the the AC vent.  The boy came over and was scared to find me on the floor when he knew I’d been sick…  oops.

Let’s see, we met with who will likely be our wedding photographer on Tuesday.  She was awesome, wheee!  Small group on wed, we are talking about Peter (the book of the bible). On Thursday I went to an awesome birthday party, (there was an awesome Captain America cake!),  Friday there was an awesome BBQ with our old kickball team to say goodbye to our Texas friends, good but sad times.   On Saturday we went to a really lovely wedding, short and sweet and full of love!  Lazy Sunday was just that, the boy go off work and came over to make breakfast, then we took refuge from the hottest day of summer by watching Brave and then we grilled steaks at his parent’s house and finished the night by seeing Thoroughly Modern Millie at The Muny in the free seats, plus of course watching the olympic trials!!!!! Whew!!

Be Happy

20 06 2012

Decisions are tough, and exhausting and, sometimes just lame.  When you are in a place where you are making a lot of decisions it’s easy to think that each one is of monumental importance, and that it’ll be a Big Deal (capital B capital D).  I’m not sure if this line of scripture is making me happy, but it’s keeping me sane, which is a good first step.

Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.” Isaiah 30:21

Disclaimer: I have no idea about the historical context for this, or how biblical scholars interpret it, but it’s on the list.

What’s Been Going On

19 06 2012

Last week I did a lot of cleaning, painting and final stuff for the house.  The guy finished painting the back addition, and we organized some closets.

I celebrated my former roomie’s  successful taking of stage 1 of her boards (for medical school).  We gathered together to eat salad and catch up and celebrate a really awesome accomplishment.

I started off the weekend by going out to Urban Chestnut for ladies night, it was great to see some old friends that I don’t get to see often enough and just relax.  Saturday the guy was riding home from work and his bike got a flat, so I went to pick him up in his truck and thought a lot about partnership and being there for each other.  It made me really excited to be married. It’s been hot here, so we had a lazy weekend, we ate out, went to see a movie (Rock of Ages), we had father’s day brunch at his parents house, and went to the heritage beer festival.  We finished off the weekend by watching one of my favorite movies Disney’s The Three Musketeers. All in all, pretty great stuff.


This I Know

18 06 2012

Things I’ve learned this week- they happened to be discovered in one conversation about weddings so they are a bit narrow in focus, but hilarious and awesome.

The best man position originated in the primitive days of marriage by capture, when a man called his friends in to assist to “lift” or kidnap the bride, or from the need to defend the bride from would-be kidnappers.  The best man was the best man with a sword, literally the best man.

The bride stands to the left of the groom on the wedding because the right arm was considered the sword arm of most fighting men. If a man had to protect his bride, he would hold her with his left hand, and fight off attackers with his right arm.

Traditionally you are suppose to say best wishes to a newly engaged woman and congratulations to the newly engaged man.  Apparently the reason behind it is that  “Congratulations” implies winning something, and so the old etiquette did not want to imply that the bride had “won” the groom, but that the groom had “won” the bride.
FYI the guy and I both feel as though we’ve won each other so congrats is/was just fine 🙂